Alright, you are now dating and well, you probably are having one of the best times in your life. Whom do you tell that you are dating. Ladies more often fall into the category or telling anyone who cares to listen. Many times guys prefer to just keep the information to themselves.
It’s important to note that not everyone we hang out with should know everything about us. A good friend of mine Charles Arnold taught me about friendship and he says there are people in 3 main categories. He talks of comrades who are more like acquaintances. They know you and you know them. Second we have the Constituents who are there because of what you do.Most times you have the same abilities and you are in the same line of calling so they are around for what they can get from you to grow their purpose. Lastly we have the Confidants who are with you for who you are.They want to be part of your vision as it unfolds by investing in you.
First of all you must understand that the moment you tell someone about your relationship it becomes vulnerable to attack. Sometimes not everyone is happy for you and they may begin to do and say things that may jeopardize your relationship. It may seem like a harmless “I think you deserve better” Therefore from the three categories of people in your life you very well known whom to open up to. Telling the wrong people the right things is dangerous. You may end up giving up your birth right just like Esau did to Jacob.
Even when you are investing in a friendship that may lead to possible dating, it’s very important to protect this young development from any possible attack. It’s like, when a hen has chicks, she protects them from any possible danger including it’s owner. This is because the chicks have no strength to take care of themselves. It’s the same with our relationships. Sometimes we need to learn on our own the true personality of the people we are involved with. It’s important to realize their full potential, their weaknesses and their strength. This helps us to build a strong foundation so that other people become irrelevant as far as a healthy relationship is concerned. You do not count on what other people think, but rather you are able to make your own judgements.
Also note that for a relationship it is important to have a mentor couple to walk with us. A mentor couple is usually a couple who are older than you are and have a working relationship. They help guide you into the best decisions concerning your dating life. A mentor couple should also be people you admire and look up to. This way you learn as much as you can from them and you find a motivation to become better.
So our main lesson today is to choose our friends wisely and protect them from any possible harm. Note that you can’t have too many confidants. They are normally few and stick close. Closer than a brother.