Why We Make The Same Mistakes.

Arlene Ayirah
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Hello everyone. I am back after a break with this article that has eaten me up for a while. Am still talking about relationships so tune your mind in that perspective. Have you dated a guy or girl who totally messed you up or wasted you and you made a promise to yourself to never make the same mistake another time. Well I bet most of us have. We have told ourselves before, I will never allow myself to get into this position ever again. Funny thing is that, you actually get there many times and just when you have built yourself, you meet someone who just makes u go bananas and before you know it, you are back where you started.
I would have you know that all of us have a type. By type I mean, we attract or are attracted to men or women with almost similar personalities. In that, you would date a men or women with at least one similar trait. That is why with time you realize your breakups or fights with these dates are almost similar, hence the phrase, men/women are all the same.
I feel a little overwhelmed writing about this because my thoughts are all over the place. So let me start from wherever my heart goes first. We make the same mistakes twice or more than twice because we do not want to see the truth and reality of things. Even when you know that this guy or girl is not good for you somehow you still convince yourself that it might work. It is very okay to trust your instincts. They don’t happen by chance because within you, you always know when something is not going to work out, you just chose to ignore that feeling.
We make the same mistakes because we have lost touch with ourselves. You stay single for such a long time and one guy shows interest in you and vwalaa you forget everything you have ever stood for. It is important to be in touch with your heart, your emotions and your principles. It doesn’t mean you will not feel tempted to live in the moment and enjoy every passing minute, it just means you are going to trust yourself enough to hold on until your other half shows up. Keeping in touch here is simply not losing connection with your convictions and beliefs. Going with them all the way.
Making a wrong move once is okay, but making the same wrong move over and over is just wrong. We must make a deliberate choice to have a standards far as our love life is concerned and stick to it. We must not settle for anything else only because we want to fit in with our peers. We must allow ourselves be happy with or without a man. I’d rather you be single and happy than be in a relationship that drains you. I have been a victim of making mistakes over and over but just knowing this will not help me. It is not enough to be aware of my weaknesses. It’s enough to work on myself and uphold myself in better regard which will allow me progress and not stay at the same spot.