Babe,We Need A Break…

Arlene Ayirah

BREAK

Hey guys. Hope you have been doing great. Am good, needed a break to deal with a few things. Before we can get into our topic today I wanted to congratulate a friend of mine for posting his first article. Dennis Njage Munene. You did an amazing first article. Please read his articles and encourage him to write because I know he has a lot of great wisdom to share.
Today am writing this blog with a friend of mine Caroline Gathoni Muriuki aka Yellow. I give you all permission to call her yellow because of her extremely light color. We are going to share about the most feared aspect of any relationship. The time when one person in the relationship needs a break for one reason or another. The major challenge rises when one party does not agree to this. Reason being they necessarily don’t see the reason why the break is needed and on their part they feel that they are doing everything right for the relationship to blossom.
Most times the break issue arises when the relationship is moving too fast for one person. The pace of every relationship if not monitored and agreed upon can be a big issue for the people involved. It at times becomes scary and that is why some people may feel that a break is the best option.
How then do we deal with it when it comes. Truth is, I don’t have a formulae to solving this issue. But i do know that it is important to be on the same page for sober relationship to prevail. I believe that it is the best interest for both parties in the relationship to grant the break when it is asked for. However, you need to understand if it is indeed a break or a way out the relationship.
Love is a two way traffic. When one side flows and the other lane is stuck, then the flow is disrupted. A break gives the chance for one to see or realize who is violating the rules. For many relationships especially those started in a rush,a break might be necessary before you get too far.Before getting to a serious commitment you have to know at least 80% of the other person.So if you are in a relationship where a simple thing such as communication is not free-flow then you might need that break. Who didn’t hit the break when the green light flickered? Who switched to the other lane? Time to reflect can get you these answers.
In other cases one party in a relationship is normally looking for an escape route. Sometimes they have found another more interesting person and want to leave you for them. How will you know? Well often than not, there are usually a few signs. They don’t keep in touch as they used to,  they don’t give you the same attention they used to, they always have an excuse not to meet up, your calls or texts become an irritation to them and sometimes they keep talking about this new friend they met. Be cautious this friend may just be the reason for your break. In this case,I would advise that the party not interested should just lay the cards on the table and be honest. Let your partner know that you are no longer interested in the relationship. I think it is better to deal with a truth than to hold on to false hope of getting back together. As I always say, there is no good way to break bad news. It will still hurt. The humane thing to do is to put everything in the open and allow the events to unfold.
If you did not orchestrate the break in the relationship, please do not victimize the person who asked for it. It is mature for you to find out why he or she needed that break and see what you can do to facilitate a great transition even as you both take time to figure yourselves out. Do not give yourself a pat on the back thinking you did everything right and a break is not what you rightly deserved because the world doesn’t always give us what we deserve. We are made perfect in our mistakes so don’t be self righteous and judge your partner for needing the break. You were loved, not because you were perfect but because your partner could stomach your weaknesses.
A break is not necessarily a break up so let us learn to differentiate the two and give the proper treatment for each scenario. Caroline, Thank you for your input and wisdom am sure our readers have learnt a thing or two.
Coming soon is an article about a power couple who got married last month. We will get their perspective of Love and learn a few things from them. I am also looking forward to this amazing story where MUSIC MET LOVE.
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