Defining Relationships. 

Arlene Ayirah 

I have had friends who told me that they think they are dating but it’s not official.  This statement that people use “We are just friends” I find it unfair. How do you treat a lady or a gent as if he or she is your partner but then you are not committing to the idea of being in a relationship. 

Here is what I think we should do.  Well for me it’s important that as a guy you take charge and have that talk.  I know there’s a tendency of people sticking to friendship so that they can be certain the other party likes them too. It’s not right because many times people end up getting hurt.  You make someone imagine that there’s something between you when there’s nothing. 

Men if u like a lady let them know, initiate the talk and get to know if you two have a chance. Other than acting sweet and making them have imaginations. 

It’s very important to define what it is you are doing. Are you sticking to friendship or are you building a friendship that will lead to a relationship. This talk is important.  Ladies always wait for the man to lead the talk don’t start it.  It’s their role thats why they are heads. 

The Dating Art

Arlene Ayirah

I call dating an art because it is the practicality of what we want in future and what Christ has taught us.  For me dating is a gate to marriage.  So this means that if you are not dating for marriage you are in the wrong place. 

Previously we said that purpose is a motivation for getting into a relationship.  So if my purpose complements the other person’s purpose then we are good to go. If not well, we got something to work on. 

So here we are dating, and everything checks out and one morning one person wakes up and they just feel no longer in love. What happens then?Do you break up? With your purposes as the driving force you will have something to hold on to. With an investment of friendship between you two, you will find a reason to stay. 

So then what does this mean?  Feelings flactuate. They come and go and if the feelings are the only reason you are in a relationship am sorry to say but it is likely to fail.  

I want to leave you thinking about something.  How many people have you ever liked or had a crash on? Given the chance would you really be okay spending the rest of your life with them based on the crash alone?

Let’s talk about how we can handle crashes in the next piece. 

See you then and share this with as many people as you can think about. 

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Introducing Dating

Arlene Ayirah 

Dating is one aspect of our lives where we get to find that one person who makes us look forward to seeing the God nature in them.What do I mean? If you gonna start dating you need to make sure your own life has no baggage from your past. So that when you begin to accommodate another person in your heart it’s not a struggle loving them even at their worst.  Many people tend to wrongly believe that dating and relationships complete them as a person but it’s not true. Dating should be a place where you come together to steer a common goal,a common purpose. My spiritual father @Mozmi Musicol says dating is the coming together of two purposes. Therefore before we can talk about the details of dating you need to first of all be sure that with you is a purpose and a zeal to make you a better version of what you already are

In the same way these different fruits have been blended to form a great combination of taste and colour, so should our relationships be.  Us coming together to bring more joy and happiness in each others lives and not to bring or become aspects of confusion. 

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Introducing Me

Arlene Ayirah

My life hasn’t been a walk in the park…. But the things I have experienced since I deliberately chose to live for God have been transforming. 

I just created this blog to be able to share with the world the love of God. He loved me when I didn’t deserve it and now I can’t help it but learn how to love Him more  

Am hoping that through my posts you will be able to learn a thing oh no or two about how you can handle life and the challenges that come along.

Am a young woman early 20s and vibrant for Jesus.  I want to share with a generation, a remnant that will walk a life of purity, holiness and obedience to God.  

I already love you before I meet you… Because the Love of God lives inside of me.  

Looking forward to interact with you.