Think about that one person you really totally like and would want to keep them really close for the longest time possible. Regardless of if it’s the male or female gender,NO is usually an unpleasant answer. When a guy likes a lady you find them asking themselves… “what if she says no.”
So let’s figure out how we can deal with this. First off I like telling people…its never that serious. Sometimes it is but really we can always survive in the toughest of situations. If you ever get a NO from a lady, I would advice 2 things. First find out if the lady is playing hard to get,and if she is,pursue her because you will eventually conquer. Ladies love to be chased and men were created to chase. It’s in their nature. Two if she really is not interested it’s simple, accept and move on. Never force a lady to date you. It’s just not right and it makes you look desperate and intolerable.
Sometimes, ladies make guys do the craziest of things. But guys, you don’t always have to say yes because you love her. It’s okay to say NO. It shows that you are responsible and you are in control first of your life and of that relationship.
Women like to be led. They like being showed the way. This is a topic for another day.
So let’s learn to say no to what we really are not ready for and also learn to accept the answer no.
I have had friends who told me that they think they are dating but it’s not official. This statement that people use “We are just friends” I find it unfair. How do you treat a lady or a gent as if he or she is your partner but then you are not committing to the idea of being in a relationship.
Here is what I think we should do. Well for me it’s important that as a guy you take charge and have that talk. I know there’s a tendency of people sticking to friendship so that they can be certain the other party likes them too. It’s not right because many times people end up getting hurt. You make someone imagine that there’s something between you when there’s nothing.
Men if u like a lady let them know, initiate the talk and get to know if you two have a chance. Other than acting sweet and making them have imaginations.
It’s very important to define what it is you are doing. Are you sticking to friendship or are you building a friendship that will lead to a relationship. This talk is important. Ladies always wait for the man to lead the talk don’t start it. It’s their role thats why they are heads.
I call dating an art because it is the practicality of what we want in future and what Christ has taught us. For me dating is a gate to marriage. So this means that if you are not dating for marriage you are in the wrong place.
Previously we said that purpose is a motivation for getting into a relationship. So if my purpose complements the other person’s purpose then we are good to go. If not well, we got something to work on.
So here we are dating, and everything checks out and one morning one person wakes up and they just feel no longer in love. What happens then?Do you break up? With your purposes as the driving force you will have something to hold on to. With an investment of friendship between you two, you will find a reason to stay.
So then what does this mean? Feelings flactuate. They come and go and if the feelings are the only reason you are in a relationship am sorry to say but it is likely to fail.
I want to leave you thinking about something. How many people have you ever liked or had a crash on? Given the chance would you really be okay spending the rest of your life with them based on the crash alone?
Let’s talk about how we can handle crashes in the next piece.
See you then and share this with as many people as you can think about.
My life hasn’t been a walk in the park…. But the things I have experienced since I deliberately chose to live for God have been transforming.
I just created this blog to be able to share with the world the love of God. He loved me when I didn’t deserve it and now I can’t help it but learn how to love Him more
Am hoping that through my posts you will be able to learn a thing oh no or two about how you can handle life and the challenges that come along.
Am a young woman early 20s and vibrant for Jesus. I want to share with a generation, a remnant that will walk a life of purity, holiness and obedience to God.
I already love you before I meet you… Because the Love of God lives inside of me.
Looking forward to interact with you.